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Oct. 27th, 2020 12:22 pm
eleanorjane: The one, the only, Harley Quinn. (Default)
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I remain deeply bemused by the way the discourse around healthy relationships has warped over time. It is, of course, a good thing that people have grown to recognise that an older person grooming a younger (less experienced, more naive, more shape-able) person is generally a bad thing, and often predatory in the context of romantic relationships.

But I've genuinely seen people arguing that any age gap in relationships other than a few years is inherently predatory, that the older person is always taking advantage of the younger person, that they're "creepy pedos". Even when the youngest person in the couple is in their thirties or forties. Leaving aside the inherent lack of understanding of what a pedophile actually is, it seems so closed-minded to assume that people can never have anything genuine and valuable to offer each other unless they're at exactly the same stage of their life.

And of course progressive discourse and purity culture and the internet commentariat being what they are, I've seen multiple people arguing - apparently entirely sincerely - about why older and younger people would even be friends? Why would a sixty year old want to hang out with a forty year old? What could they possibly have in common; how could they possibly find each other interesting?

(Thankfully, I was reading the worst offenders from my phone, and the obstacle of trying to thumb-type a polemic saved me from falling into the But Someone Is Wrong On The Internet spiral.)

I don't think I'll ever get over being surprised about the inability of a great number of people to imagine that other peoples' lives do not look exactly like their own.

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Date: 2020-10-27 02:49 am (UTC)
lilacsigil: 12 Apostles rocks, text "Rock On" (12 Apostles)
From: [personal profile] lilacsigil
Whenever I've seen it about adults, it's just shipwars, or leftover debris from shipwars. Like in the Sherlock BBC fandom where a loud contingent argued that having the wrong character (of two 30-40 something men) topping was "pedophilia" because one of them was "child-coded". I mostly feel sorry for the teenagers being told that having totally age-appropriate sexual interests (like a 15-year-old interested in a 15-year-old) is pedophilic and they should be ashamed.

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Date: 2020-10-27 10:26 am (UTC)
merit: (Riverdale Betty)
From: [personal profile] merit
My work team has people from the 20s to their 60s... SCANDAL.

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